Today when I opened my inbox, this was the top email lying in the pool of all the 100 odd unread emails. The subject of the email read, “How to Attract a Man or a Woman Not Interested in You”. My first thought was this is some voodoo or black magic spam email but boy I was wrong. This was actually a proper article written by an author for a pretty popular portal called “Medium”.
Curiosity got the better of me and I was lured into clicking the article and even read through the starting of it, at least whatever the free version allowed while keeping the juicy content behind paywall. It started on an interesting note by setting the premise as “how to get your crush to like us back”, which literally almost 80% of romcom movies are based on. Picture a movie where in the first half of the movie you are shown an ugly version of the actress who is wearing braces, glasses and is always walking around with books (although there is nothing wrong with this look but she is made to look as if she is a freaking monster). She likes a guy but he never seems to look at her and then we move to second half of the movie where the girl undergoes transformation, gets rids of braces and glasses, magically discovers the power of makeup and short skirts and ditches her books for long heels…..and guess what, the guy who was ignoring her suddenly sees her for the first time and is floored by her beauty. They lock eyes, fall in love and live happily ever after as long as the girl continues with short skirts and heels and pretends to act all silly and stupid.
How to make someone attracted to you when they don’t like you? This has to be one of the stupidest questions that I have read on the Internet. The fact that a person doesn’t like you or is not interested in you should be enough to leave that person alone and focus on someone else. But no, humans crave for things that we cannot have, so we go online, try to find tricks to make that person look at us and like us. Most of the online articles I read through before writing this were full of crap talking about “how to do a makeover”. I get it, people are attracted to pretty things, so the first thing you do is change your hairdo, clothes and learn how to put on makeup (makeup is just not for girls now!). So far so good, you are now able to make some people turn their heads and look in your direction. Next is to read every damn thing about that other person online so you can participate in activities that he/she likes in order to show how compatible you both are with common interests and choices. He likes romcom, you will love romcom even though deep inside you detest it.
All good, you both meet, decide your compatibility score is almost 80%, you both think you have hit the jackpot, start dating and eventually maybe get married. You cannot possibly keep pretending to like things he/she likes, you cannot constantly look pretty, so what happens when the truth comes out? When you start being who you are, when you start arguing over which movie to watch because there is a limit to how much romcom you can watch just to please a person.
Wouldn’t it have been easier if you would not have bothered with someone who was not attracted to you to begin with? Wouldn’t it be easier to be real, hangout with like-minded people and eventually find someone who was attracted to you because of who you are instead of who they want you to be? This world is full of fake things, fake people, even fake orgasms. We shouldn’t be looking at building our lives with fake relationships too, somethings are best kept real!
